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Marriage and Family

  • Cross-cultural Worker Marriage Issues - a series of articles written by Ron Kotesky, and available for free in PDF format as an entire book
  • The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of Godby Timothy and Kathy Keller.
    • Recommended by Warren Janzen. " It is perhaps the best book on marriage I have ever read. The author clearly paints a picture of the current American view on marriage, and then counters it with God’s Word on marriage. “The new conception of marriage as self-realization has put us in a position of wanting too much out of marriage and yet not nearly enough – at the same time.” “A marriage based not on self-denial but on self-fulfillment will require a low or no maintenance partner who meets your needs while making almost no claims on you.” Keller digs into what love really looks like, and how true love will make both spouses more holy, not simply more happy. Another intriguing part of the book was a discussion on how much each individual changes within a marriage. That person you married actually becomes at times a stranger whom you need to learn how to love. It is a book I am buying for my boys, and would recommend to anyone wanting a fresh and biblical view of marriage."
    • Recommended by Eric Oldenburg. "I highly recommend this book, even to those who aren't married and to those whose marriages are healthy and not in need of any immediate positive input. The reason why this book is so good is that it covers a number of issues that aren't always covered in standard marriage books. Keller provides a thorough analysis of the current secular perspective on male/female relationships and why, it seems, that marriage is despised by so many in Western culture today. He debunks many of the myths propagated by anti-marriage proponents using clear Biblical teaching combined with current research. Keller also handles the "controversial" marriage passages with scholarly responsibility and Scriptural fidelity. And, writing with his wife, Keller provides more than a single-gender understanding to most questions. The book is also written in such a way that it would benefit MKs who are thinking about male/female relationships. Keller's pastoral experience can serve as a guide in helping teens think rightly about those relationships in light of marriage. If you are looking for a relevant and powerful book on marriage, please pick up this one and enjoy."
  • Communication: Key to Your Marriage: A Practical Guide to Creating a Happy, Fulfilling Relationshipby H. Norman Wright. Recommended by Richard Sanders. "A very practical description of how different personality traits (mainly based on DISC and extrovert/introvert) impact a marriage relationship and really all relationships. Lots of stories and real life illustrations. Excellent read!"
  • Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy by Gary Thomas. Recommended by Scott Powell, in his MOP session on "Marriage in a Cross-cultural setting".
  • The Anatomy of an Affair - by Dr. Wayne Mack. The chain of events that happen before adultery actually takes place.
  • Missionary Marriage: Computer Sex or Me - recommended by the IO for all SEND missionaries
  • DIY Marriage Retreat
  • Love & Respect - love best motivates a woman and respect most powerfully motivates a man. Research reveals that during marital conflict a husband most often reacts unlovingly when feeling disrespected, and a wife reacts disrespectfully when feeling unloved. We asked 7,000 people the question, "When you are in a conflict with your spouse or significant other, do you feel unloved or disrespected?" 83% of the men said "disrespected" and 72% of the women said "unloved." Though we all need love and respect equally, the felt need differs during conflict, and this difference is as different as pink is from blue! Videos, books, podcasts


  • The Father Connection: How You Can Make the Difference in Your Child's Self-Esteem and Sense of Purposeby Josh McDowell. Recommended by Richard Sanders. "Josh is one of the most engaging and clear communicators of our day and in this book he shares successes and failures from his personal journey as a dad. He takes 12 characteristics of our Heavenly Father and helps us to apply them as dads with our own children. This book goes by quickly with Josh's interesting and real life stories that illustrate Biblical and practical responsibilities and roles of the father."
  • Practical Positive Parenting Program An excellent program directed by Eileen Starr in Alaska. The Practical Positive Parenting Program consists of ten sessions. Each session starts with a meal and gives all participants a chance to eat and fellowship together. The presentation portion of the program follows, and lasts about 45 minutes with power point slides. The participants then separate into small groups and discuss the application questions. The participants of the group are consistent from session to session. The first seven sessions in Alaska do not refer directly to the Bible because it is used by the government and Alaska child protection services. Many of the participants are required by the courts to attend these sessions, so many of the participants are not regular church goers. Children and teens attending the program with their parents will separate and go to their own program. PPP also includes three additional sessions which are spiritual in nature. It includes Bible references and a presentation of the gospel. These sessions come at the end and they are optional for the participants. The parenting program is being used in several locations in Alaska and Russia. It will soon be used in Canada and China. For more information, contact Eileen Starr

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